ADHD High-Energy Moments:

Embracing Blake’s High-Energy Moments: A Journey of Acceptance and Calm

When I fully accept Blake for who he is, things tend to go smoothly. But when I’m stressed, wanting him to slow down or be less reactive, I start seeing his behavior through a lens of frustration. I may respond with anger, and he often mirrors that energy back. It creates a cycle, almost like a clash of wills, and inadvertently, I end up teaching him that he can get an endorphin rush from my anger.

This isn't uncommon for kids with ADHD. They often seek an endorphin boost, whether through laughter and play or through reactions to negative, high-energy interactions. You might notice some kids initiate play in a way that seems confrontational or "pushes buttons," but, in reality, they’re just trying to spark the energy they need. Sometimes, it’s laughter and joyful play they’re after, and sometimes, even a negative reaction—like a sibling's tears—can meet that need in their brain. For them, it’s all about achieving a certain energy level, not about causing harm.

In these moments, I’ve learned a vital lesson: when Blake is in his high-energy mode and I feel myself getting triggered, my best approach is to check my judgments. I remind myself that his reactions are his experience, not mine to control or take on. He needs me to remain calm—not just in words, but in genuine energy and presence. This means modeling boundaries, staying present without judgment or anger.

It’s a delicate balance and a learning process, but every step helps me support him better while helping myself stay centered too. With understanding and acceptance, we’re building a space where both of us can thrive.

#EnjoyYourSilly

From Momma Vix